Self-esteem is the perception you have of yourself. It involves your thoughts concerning who you are, how you look, and how your body and mind function. It’s how you feel about yourself. Can self-esteem be learned? Definitely!
Where does self-esteem come from?
From the time of your birth, till you became fully aware of yourself, you learned a lot of things. This includes how you view yourself and life in general. Feedback from family, peers, and society affects ones perception of self, positively or negatively. You placed a value upon yourself based on what was said or done to you and the way people treated you or reacted to you.
For some people, all the childhood experiences and feedback might have been positive and healthy. However, somewhere down the line of adulthood, they lose self-esteem. Perhaps due to failed relationships, chronic disease, failures, or recurrent counts of rejection.
Some schools of thought say self-esteem is inherited.
So can self-esteem be learned?
Yes! Yes, it can! The very way that you might have learned that you’re insignificant, your feelings don’t matter, you’re not worthy of love, you’re not enough, nobody needs you, you’re worthless, and all the other lies you may have picked up; is the way you can also learn the opposite and choose to appreciate yourself.
It’s all in the mind and what you choose to believe.
How can you learn self-esteem?
You have to change the way you think about yourself. You have to realize that not everything you were told or made to believe when growing up is true. Now that you are older and wiser, discover the truth and the world from your own experiences. Start replacing those imposed memories and ideologies with your own. You need to do this so that you impact your offspring and those around you positively.
It took so many years for you to learn all those negative things about yourself. It will also take time for you to replace the negative lies and beliefs with positive truth. Be patient with your progress no matter how slow it may be.
Sometimes, we teach our own selves to think negatively about who we are. Perhaps because of past recurrent failures, forms of abuse, rejection, etc. It’s important to give yourself a second, third, or a thousand chances. Don’t pass yourself off as worthless after a few failures or counts of rejection. No one can determine your worth but yourself.
Why should you acquire positive self-esteem?
Self-esteem is the value you place on yourself. If you think you are worthless, it will show in everything you do and this will affect how people perceive and react to you. Read Your thoughts are not private to learn more.
Positive self-esteem gives you power over your life and your surroundings. Its easier to stand for what you want because you will clearly define your core values and principles.
Individuals with positive self-esteem have higher chances of being happy in life. They tend to be self-motivated and self-driven. As such, they perform better academically or professionally and in other areas of life. They even make better partners.
It has also been proven that it is easier to love and live with a person with positive and healthy self-esteem. Individuals with low self-esteem tend to make toxic partners. Read about the signs of low self-esteem in a man here.
People with positive self-esteem tend to cope with adverse outcomes of life better because of their positive approach towards life. They also have lower chances of developing mental health illnesses such as anxiety disorder, personality disorders, depression, etc.
Most people struggle with peer pressure and the value of belonging. However, individuals with positive self-esteem are not afraid to be themselves. And because of this, they don’t place their value in how many friends, followers are social likes they get. They know their worth and don’t need a crowd to make them feel worthy. This eliminates the aspect of neediness and people-pleasing tendencies.
Positive self-esteem will also enable you to pursue new challenges without fear; thereby increasing your chances of success, happiness, and a fulfilling life.
Can self-esteem be learned? Yes, it can.
Should you learn to have positive self-esteem? Why not? It will guide you to self-love, which is the first step to happiness.
After all the benefits listed here, you just have to start your journey now! Your very first guided steps can be this article containing tips on how to improve your self-esteem. You can also subscribe to this blog so we walk together and learn more about self-esteem and other issues surrounding your wellbeing.